礼节美语068讲
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陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他午间休息遇到了美国同事Amy。
(Office ambience)
C：Amy, 你看见副总裁布朗先生有关公司野餐的电子邮件了吗？
A：Yes, I read it this morning. It sounds like fun. I think the committee is planning a full day of activities.
C：没错，要整整一天，而且还是个星期六。
A：You sound as if you have a problem with all this.
C：我是有点儿不高兴。我这是第一次听说公司还要开野餐会。
A：It`s become a tradition, and it is always held on the same weekend each year. We have a great time.
C：可我一点儿兴趣也没有，尤其是要浪费一天周末时间。我打算告诉布朗，说我那天正好有事。
A：Chen Hao, That is not a good idea. Everybody is expected to be there. It`s really not an option unless you have a legitimate reason for your absence.
C：什么？非去不可？可我觉得，周末是自己的时间。公司没有权利要求我用自己的业余时间去参加工作上的活动。
A：You need to understand how these events are part of your job. Let`s take a minute and sit over there in the park to discuss this.
C：我倒是想听听，为什么公司野餐非去不可！
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Amy和陈豪在公园的椅子上坐下。
A：Let me see if I can explain this to you. If you want to be a successful member of the team, you have to do more than just show up for work every day and do your job.
C：这太可笑了。参加社交活动跟做好本职工作又有什么关系呢？
A：First of all, they are a way to build relationships with our colleagues and co-workers. You get to see another side of people when you do things together outside of work. You establish friendships on another level.
C：加深对同事的了解？跟他们做朋友？可我为什么要跟他们做朋友呢？
A：Having good relationships with co-workers can make daily work life more pleasant and make shared assignments go more smoothly.
C：好吧，我去就是了，可为什么还要主动承担组织筹备的工作呢？
A：By serving on a committee and helping out with the event, you have the opportunity to reveal leadership skills and to express a spirit of cooperation.
C：我注意到，野餐会上还有不少家庭活动。
A：That`s right. There are events for adults and children. Everyone brings their family so it is all quite lively.
C：我们有必要去认识同事的家人吗？
A：Of course you do. Displaying an interest in their family says that you value more than just your workplace relationship with your co-workers.
C：那好吧，我回去就报名参加野餐组织委员会。
礼节美语069讲
陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他有事去找美国同事Amy。
(Office ambience)
A：Hi Chen Hao, how are you?
C：我有个问题，要请教你。你有时间吗？
A：Sure. I don`t have anything on my calendar for another hour. What`s the matter?
C：我们正在做一个新项目，宣传最新的客户服务计划。
A：That sounds like a good idea. We can always improve customer service. Why is that a problem?
C：我们成立了一个小组，包括三男三女，以前互不相识，结果沟通上出现了问题，影响了项目进度。
A：What kind of communication issues?
C：事先声明，我可没有大男子主义，但我觉得那三个女的浪费了很多时间。
A：How?
C：她们喜欢谈私事。好不容易谈到主题了，她们又没完没了，直到大家都对方案满意了才肯罢休。
A：It`s good to be sure that you are all in accord.
C：可凡事都要有节制啊。有几次我为了推动进度，打断了她们，结果她们特不高兴。
A：I understand what is happening. You have a gender issue.
C：什么？性别问题？
A：This is going to take a bit more time to explain. Can we continue our conversation over lunch?
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Amy和陈豪午饭时继续上午的话题。
C：我想了一上午，怎么也想不通早上我们说的事怎么会跟性别有关。
A：Remember that you started off by telling me that there were some problems in the group and you immediately zeroed in on the women.
C：没错，进度慢，就是那几个女同事的责任。
A：Men and women have different approaches to communication that both need to understand.
C：男性和女性交流的方式，可能是不一样。我们几个男的都觉得可以行动了，但那几个女的老觉得太仓促。
A：As with all conflict, you need to take time to address this. You should talk about what is happening, attempt to understand each other and resolve the issue in a cooperative manner.
C：加深相互理解？那具体该怎么做呢？
A：Tell the women you appreciate their opinions and expertise. Ask them to focus more on business conversation and less on personal. Next consider how you men are behaving.
C：难道说我们这些男的也有做错的地方吗？
A：You admitted that you interrupted in an effort to move things along. I bet that you are also trying to dominate and give the women as little chance as possible to speak up.
C：我承认，我们确实有控制会议之嫌。一般情况下，听完她们的意见，我们就不再去看她们，生怕她们没完没了地说下去。
A：To avoid additional strife and accommodate each other, you need to stop interrupting and trying to dominate.
C：我知道了，男性希望马上找到解决问题的办法，而女性喜欢先花时间，建立关系，因此双方就会出现矛盾。