今天李华学到了两个常用语。一个是go out, 是约会的意思。另一个是just friends做普通朋友，和more than friends, 恋爱的关系。
礼节美语022讲
陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作，惊天是星期五下午，陈豪正在跟美国同事Amy聊天。
(Office ambience)
A: 陈豪，do you have any plans for the weekend?
C: 这个周末还真有活动。我们老板夫妇请我到他们家去玩儿，我没告诉你吗？说实话，I am a little nervous.
A：What are you nervous about?
C: 我怕自己会有失礼的地方。唉，你给我讲讲，在西方，去别人家作客有什么需要注意的吧。
A: Do you have gift for your hosts?
C：礼物，可我不知道买什么呀。
A：Here"s what I do. I take a gift with me when I know my hosts" taste and hobbies.
C：那要是不知道他有什么爱好呢？
A：When I don"t have a clue, I pay attention to what they like while I am there. Then I send a special gift after the visit.
C：我怕吃不惯他们家的饭，所以准备自己带饭去。
A: Unless you have food allergies or need to follow a special diet that would be rude. The rule is to "make do".
C：我倒是没有食物过敏。那要是不爱吃呢？
A: If there is something you don"t like, don"t let your hosts know. Have a little bit of everything to be polite but fill up on the things you like.
C: 你说得有道理，我可以每样儿都尝点，哪个合胃口就多吃点儿。你放心，不好吃我也不会告诉他们的。还有Amy, can I take my dog Freckles?
A：绝对不行. Unless they invite Freckles, ask your neighbors if they could look after him.
C：那我到他们家能看电视吗？
A：They may ask if you want to watch television and if you have any favorite shows. 不过，要是没人问你，那他们看什么，你就应该跟着看什么。
C：他们睡觉以后我能看吗？
A：I hate to disappoint you, but if your hosts go to bed, you should retire to your room.
C：我要是不困呢？
A：Take something to read. It"s much more courteous to read quietly in your room than to stay up with the televising blaring.
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C：Amy, 我还有什么地方需要注意吗？
A：Don"t forget when the visit is over to send a handwritten thank you note?
C：一定要手写吗？我能不能写个e-mail，表示感谢呢？
A：绝对不行。E-mail is too impersonal.
C：可我没有像样的卡片和信封呀。
A：Then buy some and take it with you along with a pen and some stamps. You can write the note before you leave their house and mail it on your way back home.
C: 我还以为这个周末可以好好放松一下呢。看来我得随时注意，做个好客人，可别闹什么笑话。
A：没错。还有就是要enjoy yourself.
礼节美语023讲
陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他和美国同事Amy刚刚开完会。
(Office ambience)
A：陈豪，Do you have a few minutes to talk?
C：Sure, 有什么事吗？
A：I noticed something in our meeting just now. 做为朋友，我觉得应该告诉你。It has to do with good etiquette.
C: 我有什么地方做得不对吗？西方礼节对我来说还有些陌生，你可得随时提醒我。
A: It has to do with body language, specifically eye contact.
C：肢体语言？Amy, 你能说得具体点儿吗？
A：We send nonverbal messages with our arms, our legs, our posture, our gestures and most often with our eyes.
C：你是说能从我眼睛里能看出我的想法吗？
A：没错。比方说，今天开会时，your eyes said more than your words or your facial expression. Todd 介绍提案时，我能看出你不同意他的意见。
C：奥， 你从我眼睛就能看出来？我真的是有异议。可你看出来的？我可是一字都没说呀。
A: You didn"t have to. You rolled your eyes.
C: 我翻眼睛了吗？我怎么一点儿都没觉得。
A：你是下意识的。You were not aware, but several people at the meeting noticed.
C：那就是说虽然我嘴上没表示反对，其它人还是能够看出来。Was there anything else that I did with my eyes?
A：Unfortunately, yes. You looked away several times while Todd was speaking.
C：这有什么不好吗？他说的我都听过好几遍了。
A：没错。By not looking at Todd, you gave the impression that you had heard it all before and were not the least bit interested in hearing more.
C：这我可没想到。我一直在努力管住自己的嘴巴，不要乱讲话。
A：Well, your eyes did that for you.
C： Amy, 你还从我的眼神儿里看出什么了？
A：When you lost complete interest in what Todd was saying, you just stared at him blankly. It was that old "deer in the headlights" look.
C：“车前灯里的鹿”是什么意思啊？
A：For the deer facing the headlights of an oncoming car, its expression is one of looking, but not seeing.
C：你是说我的眼睛虽然看着Todd，但是别人能看出来，我其实并没有听进去？
A：That"s right. The courteous professional is as conscious of his body language as he is his spoken language.
C: Amy, 你能不能再提醒我一下，以后要怎么做，省得我的眼睛把我的想法都泄漏出去了。
A：记住，眼睛是心灵的窗口。Learning to control the message that your eyes send is the key to courteous communication.
礼节美语024讲
陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作，他在公司餐厅里遇到了美国同事Amy。
(Office ambience)
C：Hi, Amy. 我有几个问题想请教你。
A：Of course, what about?
C: Table manners. 具体说，我想知道用刀叉有哪些讲究。
A: So you are having trouble figuring out the correct way to eat Western style?
C：没错。每次出去吃饭，我都会犯怵，总要等别人先动手，然后跟着学，可总是不得要领。
A：Well, for one thing, there are only two correct styles of eating that the Americans use, but some people eat however it suits them.
C：既然美国人都那么随便，那我怎么用刀叉，是不是也就无所谓了呢？
A: 你要是想成功，还是应该注意饭桌上的规矩，because how you handle getting food to your mouth is a big part of your professional image.
C: 你说得也对，那到底该怎么使用刀叉呢？
A：The two correct styles of eating are the American and the Continental style.
C：一种是美国式，一种是大陆式。你就地给我演示一下行吗。等我去借几把刀叉来。
A：Better yet, let"s go to the New York Grill after work and practice in an authentic American restaurant.
C：好主意，那咱们下班见。
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C：Amy，先教我美式吧。
A：With the American style, you hold the fork in your left hand and the knife in your right hand to cut your meat or vegetables.
C：左手拿叉...右手拿刀切...
A：Then you place the knife on the top of your plate with the blade facing in. Next you transfer the fork to your right hand.
C：等等，切完了把刀放在盘子上，刀刃儿冲里，然后再把叉子从左手换到右手上。
A：Now with the fork in your right hand, you take the food to your mouth with the fork tines up.
C：Tines是什么？
A：Times是叉子的尖。
C：噢，就是吃的时候叉子的尖儿要冲上。那大陆式的用法呢？
A：切食物的方法是一样的。The difference is that you keep the fork in your left hand to take the food to your mouth but with the tines down.
C：所以说唯一的区别是，叉子不换到右手上，一直是左手拿叉，吃的时候叉子的尖儿冲下。What do I do with my knife?
A：You can continue to hold it in your right hand since you aren"t switching the fork over. Just keep it close to your plate.
C：如果想放下，是不是也要刀刃冲内，放在盘子上呢？
A：没错。Food is cut the same way for both American and Continental styles, fork in the left hand and knife in the right hand.
C：我记住了，谢谢你Amy.
礼节美语025讲
陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他在走廊里遇到了美国同事Amy。
C：Amy，你有时间吗?
A：Sure，什么事？
C：Todd这个人真是很奇怪。有时候，我打电话给他，他明明在办公室里，而且也不忙，可他就是不接电话。我只好在电话里给他留言，可他好几个小时才回电话，有时根本就不回。
A：How does that make you feel?
C：让我觉得自己无足轻重。我不愿意跟他共事。